Family sucks!

I’m so mad at my mom and stepfather I can’t even think of what I want to say!  We found out last weekend that my stepfather plans to shut down the dairy in about a year – how did I find this out you ask?  Well, my sister who had visited my mother let me in on this little secret.   More specifically my mother told my sister that ‘I hope they’re saving their money’ because Clem’s retiring in a year.  Do I have a problem with him retiring?  Of course not!  He’s had back problems for years so I’m not even surprised but what pisses me off is neither of them has bothered to say anything to my husband or I!  I’m incredibly thankful that my sister told me about the conversation since we’ll now be saving every penny we can so that we can make the move to Arkansas we’d planned to make it a couple years a little earlier.  Now I know that particular move is going to upset a lot of people since all our family lives here in Oregon but let’s face facts…. My mother lives across a field from us yet we never see her, for my son’s sixteenth birthday she gave him a $10 Burger King card – and MAILED that!  However, she sent one of my little brother’s (an adult) friends an Easter basket yet didn’t acknowledge her grandson at all.  When my ear drum ruptured and I called her to let her know I needed to go to the ER she asked me how I was going to get there – knowing that I didn’t drive and shouldn’t be with my balance thrown off the way it was.  My sister rarely visits, most of the time when she comes down to the coast I find out about it as an afterthought or the day they’re heading home – when they’ll swing by for a quick visit.  We’re isolated and lonely and at this point the only family member I’ll regret leaving behind is my dad, but at the same time I know he’ll understand.  The other reason I’ll be sad to leave is this is where my oldest son is buried – somehow I feel like I’m abandoning him.  In any case, the plans are already in motion for us to be moving in about a year and I'm already having mixed emotions about it but honestly believe we'll be much happier amongst strangers than we are surrounded by family.